it had been some time since my last post, ya i m kinda busy past few days, busy going out with frens since monday nite. this had caused me to be extremely tiring now, even the time now is just 7pm. ya, i just reached home from work 15 mins ago and i decided to post somethg while waiting for "him" to come over.
after reading "ur" blog, ha, speechless. u noe wat i m thinking? something tat my mum keep scolding me past few yrs :" how will u get succeeded if u keep forget things like tis?" i m also kinda angry with myself when i forgot somethg that i shdnt forgot. personally i dun think laughing at u or avoiding from us helps u to change. u will just forgot things while u r going out with us? i dun think so lo, mayb it is just due to probability, wat is the ratio of going out with them and going out with us? there r quite a ot of times that u r "safe" after going out with us, wat i can say is "so happen" only lo, so pls dun think tat it is just when u go out with us, u will forget somethg. sometimes, i even think tat it is "she" hu makes somethg simple looks serious with her laughter. no offence, pls dun scold me k? :P
well, another quote tat i found useful: pls dun put the blame on anythg, any1 when somethg happens, wat u need to do is change urself. i can c u feel quite guilty troubling someone, but pure blaming urself without corrective action is useless wad. u r still the same if u dun even try to change! actually u noe, i dun agree that u say "TIS IS ME", u r giving urself the chance to recur ur mistake. ok, if u feel angry, i m sry, but tis is seriously how i feel lo. as a fren of u, i seriously dun hope to c u like tis anymore, tell urself, tis is ur very LAST time, dun ever repeat anymore.
come on, change it before u start work, ur collegue and boss wont like u if u keep forget somethg. i dunno whether it is related or not, but at least my bro and i feel so. after quiting games, we found that our memory do gets better, serious! u can try tis, altho i noe it is a bit hard for u. dun ask me y, coz i dunno. wat i can figure out now is i can put more time on matters tat i do concern, tat's y i seldom forget things nowadays.
from my observation, u always miss out somethg due to comfortness. i know everyone hates trouble. like u, u like to take out ur key from pocket because u feel it is uncomfortable, but if u know u will forget, y must u take it out then? uncomfortable is better than u lost it wad.
enuf, the rest, figure it out urself, these r wad i wan to say. good luck to ur future.
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'he' should take it easy..we'd made a big mistake perhaps..i would say self-fulfilling prophecy cums into play in this case....
'fren', stop ruminating n move forward k
I am going to sound really non-emotional like you guys, but I think this is a pretty common self-esteem problem. Li should know a bit about it since she's doing psychology and what not, but I'm going to depart some own experience of mine.
I used to be like you guys (not too long ago, like a couple years back), blaming myself for every little thing that I cannot manage, and I am still like that very much but at least now I feel better about it.
The problem behind it is that when we think we're not good enough (for some reason, maybe it's because of influence from others? We care too much about what others think? Or sometimes just not being able to accept ourselves as ourselves). Well this cause us to try to become someone we're not, either way, if it is something that could be improved on there isn't a lot of things to worry about.
Low self-esteem could lead to a lot of things, unhappiness, depression, and this in turn causes a lot of health problems, suicidal thoughts etc. Furthermore, it impairs your judgement and decisions, that in turn could lower your self esteem even more, so technically it's a downward spiral, and everyone needs some help getting out of the hole sometimes.
Methods to overcome this esteem problem is very easy, you just need to refute your own minds and think positive sometimes. If let's say you think you're too careless, you could refute that by saying "it's a sign you're not a machine, after all to err is human". If you worry about not being good enough in class or not being liked by your boss, then just work harder if it helps, otherwise talk to people, professor, boss etc.
there are some other resources for self-esteem problems out there. I was very depressed at some points in my life, and getting very upset, generally being very unfriendly with everyone, but things changed for the better for me, as I hope it would for all of us too.
anyway, it's just my unprofessional idea, and the analysis without any information about everything that is happening, so it might be way off, but if it's not the case, I hope I could help at least a little bit.
here is a web page you guys should read in detail and I hope you guys could improve your self esteem, that way you'll be a lot more confident and happier too!.
http://www.utexas.edu/student/cmhc/booklets/selfesteem/selfest.html
well..this is such a long 'comment' ya. Wad u said is right, i m trying to make life as simple as possible, so i dont really care about things that are not so significant, sorry to say like tat, but i will fix it anyway.
Seriously, i found that when i m doing something related to 'money', especially when i m working, i can fully concentrate, no mistake. haha, will work to put this kind of attitude in doing everything.
p/s: i do not blame anyone, tat post is just a way to express my feeling. cant just keep everything la.
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